Ordinary & Loving Jesus

Proverbs 31 – The Verse Before

You should defend those who cannot help themselves.  Yes, speak up for the poor and needy and see that they get justice.  Proverbs 31:8

This verse precedes the start of the Proverbs 31 woman – ‘If you can find a truly good wife…’

Quite regularly affirmation comes for the work that we are doing here in the city:

“It’s just so wonderful what you’re doing”

“Isn’t it good these girls get the opportunity to be loved as they really need some love and hygiene”

“You’re so committed”

Or my favourite, “You work way too hard.”

City Women began as a group of women just meeting for lunch in a home. Six women from different churches and age groups, seeing and feeling the pain of the city with the effects of family breakdown: girls with huge life-controlling and emotional issues, kids without parents and women in general not doing well.

Never labeling themselves superheroes or stereotype ‘Proverbs 31’ women (they excelled at being ordinary Christian women who did not do all they could to keep busy in church), they were simply women dependent on Jesus.

Church was not just Sunday attendance or running programs but rather an unquestionable commitment to being obedient and meeting the real needs of those around them (outside of the building).

As a good friend of mine puts it, “doing crèche, door greeting, raising a Christian family or making cupcakes for church morning tea is just ordinary Christian housework. The real work of the church is to glorify God and be His hands and feet across all spheres of influence.”

Lisa Bevere writes in Lioness Arising, “Jesus did not come to save us to tame us within the four walls.”

City Women is not a church, cult or short-term movement. There are no hidden agendas. There is no push for one church or denomination.

It is ordinary women with a simple faith who love Jesus with all of their heart, who see the pain and want to get going for God.

Proverbs 31 is about a good woman who gets her house in order, but  also takes territory by speaking up and by feeding the poor.

Liz Hamilton

Anti-Depressants or Good Fathers?

I have just finished reading a great book called ‘Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters’ written by Dr Meg Meeker. I’ve always known that dads are important, but this book through its practical research drives home just how essential a dad is in the life of a girl. It states:

* “Daughters who perceive their fathers care a lot about them, who feel connected to their fathers, have significantly fewer suicide attempts and fewer instances of body dissatisfaction, depression, low self-esteem, substance abuse and unhealthy weight.

* Girls with involved fathers are twice as likely to stay in school.

* A daughter’s self esteem is best predicted by her father’s physical affection.

* Girls with good fathers are less likely to flaunt themselves to seek male attention.

* Girls with involved fathers wait longer to initiate sex and have lower rates of teen pregnancy.

* 79 percent of teen girls said that fathers influenced their decisions on whether they should become sexually active.”

One thing Dr Meeker states strongly in her book is the direct link between pre-marital sex and depression. When you look at the above list you can’t help but wonder, do our girls need more anti-depressants and government programs OR rather a community of strong fathers and men who value and protect the daughters of our society? City Women needs great men!

Letitia Shelton